"Matt Nichelson" (whoismatt)
04/09/2018 at 13:30 • Filed to: None
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"Matt Nichelson" (whoismatt)
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A while back I posted about my wife and I getting divorced. Today was the court date. It’s the end of one thing, but the start of something else. Allow me to explain.
The last couple of months have been a roller coaster for both of us. We’ve both come to terms with things and through it all, the main person who has been there for each other is, well, each other. It may sound weird to some, but we’re both different people and we handle things differently than others.
We’ve grown a lot in terms of friendship in the last couple of months, something that I am very thankful for. Though our marriage may be ‘dead’ in terms of on paper and such, we are both adults and have found that we can still maintain a relationship in some form, thus giving us a new beginning. I’m not going to go so far as to say we will end up back together, but we are at least starting over. I know not everyone is that fortunate, so I definitely consider myself lucky.
Thanks to all of you here who showed their support. If anything, Oppo has shown me that there are still good people out there and, even though we may all come from different walks of life, we can for the most part find ways to coexist and be respectful.
To ends and new beginnings.
BlueMazda2 - Blesses the rains down in Africa, Purveyor of BMW Individual Arctic Metallic, Merci Twingo
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 13:35 |
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You know we’re all here whenever you need us. You’ve got this.
ttyymmnn
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 13:40 |
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My brother-in-law got married at a fairly young age. He was in the Air Force, she was very unhappy in Shreveport (who wouldn’t be?), they had two daughters, then they had a divorce. She went home and remarried, he got the girls and never remarried, she had another kid and then divorced. Fast forward 25 years. His daughters are grown and on their own, but he and his ex are now sharing a house and he’s helping to raise her other child. I think the relationship is platonic, but I don’t know. We rarely hear from them. But it’s working, and everybody seems happy. I’ve heard it said that sometimes a marriage is the worst thing for a relationship.
Best wishes to you both.
Alfalfa
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 13:58 |
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My parents divorce after about 30 years of marriage has turned out the same way. It’s really weird to some people, but it makes sense that if you both take some responsibility and act like adults you can maintain a relationship. My wife’s parent’s divorce was the opposite, and seeing the relationship between my parents still really weirds her out.
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Alfalfa
> ttyymmnn
04/09/2018 at 14:00 |
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My sister just got out of Shreveport, and pretty happy about it. Even if she is just in Oklahoma instead.
DaftRyosuke - So Long and Thanks for All the Fish!
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 14:05 |
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You should be proud of yourself for maintaining a professional friendship and relationship with her. My parents divorced a few years back and, “scorched earth,” is not nearly enough of an explanation of how trashed their friendship is.
Best of luck.
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ttyymmnn
> Alfalfa
04/09/2018 at 14:16 |
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I would call that a lateral move at best.
Chariotoflove
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 14:18 |
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I’m not going to go so far as to say we will end up back together,
Stranger things have happened. Good luck with whatever life brings you.
Nibby
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 14:35 |
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hey can i have the car
also good luck to you both moving forward
RallyDarkstrike - Fan of 2-cyl FIATs, Eastern Bloc & Kei cars
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 15:09 |
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Kudos to both of you for keeping things reasonable. :)
To new beginnings!
BigBlock440
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 15:09 |
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My brother’s wife’s parents live together, but are divorced. I guess they decided it was cheaper to be roommates than have separate houses. I’m not sure their exact situation, but they may be “remarried” without knowing it through co-habitation. That’s be a funny story.
AMGtech - now with more recalls!
> Matt Nichelson
04/09/2018 at 15:34 |
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I haven’t mentioned anything on here, but I’m going through the same. Oddly enough we’re closer now than we have been in years. We’re both growing as individuals, and we’re both happier. We’re sharing the responsibility in the failure of our marriage rather than blaming each other. We’re not trying to take anything from each other that is underserved. Since we have a daughter, I couldn’t imagine doing it any other way.
themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
> DaftRyosuke - So Long and Thanks for All the Fish!
04/09/2018 at 16:55 |
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Though, in fairness, sometimes scorched earth is also the healthiest... But hey, if they make it work then good for them. Easier to get along than to have to maintain the DMZ, that’s for sure.